Archive for the ‘A sense of well being’ Category


Tuesday, June 29th, 2010

This is the beginning of a new category of postings.  I hope it is a comfortable way to hear potent messages.

A place to go when one needs a spiritual uplifting

First list:

The Rose Bet Middler and others.

Circle of Life by Elton John.


Swim by Jack’s mannequin

How could anybody by Shaina Noll and lullabies for the inner child


Existentialism simplified

Friday, June 25th, 2010

Make your life feel better by knowing this.

When one is uncomfortable and feeling “bad”, one is in transition, growing, learning and evolving.

When one is feeling good one is reaping the benefits of transition, growing, learning and evolving.

Thus all is as it is “supposed” to be.

So appreciate the ebb and flow of the growth process.

Michael Rebel LMHC



ADHD epidemic (A proposition)

Friday, June 25th, 2010

It is this theorist’s opinion that the increase ADD is due to early life issues.  It is a form of hyper-vigilance driven by intensified abandonment issues.  These survival issues fuel a fear that causes the child to focus intently on a specific field. This focus severely limits awareness of peripheral factors .  Somewhat like viewing the world through a telescope. This is done in order to feel safe.  The narrowing of focus creates an awareness of finer detail in smaller field of view.  Thus, providing an opportunity to avoid fears and to keep one’s attention diverted from more painful situations.

The hyperactive (HD) component is due to increased and intense grief responses. Often a depression is brought about by the high frequency of changes.  In some children this becomes a fear of “depressed to death” .  The hyperactivity is a compensation for this seemingly lethal depression.  The child is compelled to keep moving so their body remains stimulated and vital.  Like the pacing zoo tiger in its small cage.  The tiger must move or become ill.

Our family environment with its changing structures and parenting behaviors is fluctuating  faster than the human’s capacity to evolve. Creating an overwhelming intrapsychic depressive grief response.

The mitochondrial DNA takes generations to modify.

Idealism is a rather impulsive thought process causing rapid and frequent change.

Our fixation with “new and better” ways to do things causes short sited prediction of  benefit or harm.

I propose that in this hurry up world we are geometrical increasing the entries and exits of the parents and caretakers in the child’s life.   I believe that some children develop ADD to compensate  for the overwhelming numbers of changes.   In order to compensate for their inability to reconcile with their DNA driven instincts, adaptations and expectations they divert to an anxious self stimulating ego mechanism..

I also propose that ADHD is not a disease or psychiatric problem.  It is a direct result of our societies ill-considered narcissistic parenting practices.  That our desire to make life easy causes behaviors that become psychological issues.  Most prominently effecting self esteem and security issues and impairing the child’s ability to relax and feel secure..

I have found that remediation, without medication is possible in appropriate settings!

Michael Rebel LMHC




Emily Dickenson Poem

Monday, March 22nd, 2010
Much Madness is divinest Sense --
To a discerning Eye --
Much Sense -- the starkest Madness --
'Tis the Majority
In this, as All, prevail --
Assent -- and you are sane --
Demur -- you're straightway dangerous --
And handled with a Chain --


Yesterday’s session

Saturday, March 13th, 2010

Experiencing spirituality is not about finding some new part of self.  It is about unconditionally accepting all parts of self.”

“Once one has been ‘touched’ by the light one will never be able to hide from the light again.  All will be illuminated all of the time.  No escape will work for long.  One will see the proposition clearly whether they want to or not.  From that point on one will no longer be able to find comfort hiding within the masses and the masses will shun their revelations.”           From yesterdays session.