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Role reversal??

Wednesday, May 5th, 2010

I have just watched a movie with a story line that in my opinion is becoming all too common.

The attractive young female star is the only one who behaves with honor and courage.  Her husband, a so called protector is afraid and is not into doing the “honorable thing”.  The bad guys are all tough men afraid of nothing and abusing everyone in their path for material gain.  The authorities are all male and ineffective.  They talk a good game but then use the excuse that their hands are tied legally…………..

Finally she leaves in disgust.  The authorities are still impotent and the husband dives in the bottle and takes pain pills because he misses her so much…………………

She disappears………….

Finally the husband has a dream of his ancestral pride and buys a big gun and sets out to make things right……………

She is murdered……………..

He had no courage to protect her but he now has a compulsion to avenge her death……………

What do you think??  What would it say to your son?  What would it say to your daughter?



Sunday, December 13th, 2009

A man makes himself happy by doing a good job supporting his wife.

A boy wants his mother to make him feel good, so he pleases her.

A mother makes  her boy feel good by taking care of  him.

A girl wants a boy to like her, so he will later provide for her.

A woman appreciates a man’s struggle and rewards his efforts with her good nature.

A woman sees herself as her husbands equal.

A father teaches his girl about feeling cherished and being queen.

A woman is open to love and support.

A man makes his wife his queen, with no expectations in return.

A woman, as queen, makes a man her king.

They share the kingdom equally.

They behave in complementary roles.

Now you add your views to this.

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Crumbling towers

Friday, October 16th, 2009

I was watching the news this morning and they were commenting on a situation where bullies had severely burned an innocent victim. As everyone would expect the mother was horrified, tearful and distraught . She was doing the right thing but it was too late. The commentator was selling information for her advertisers.

The commentators interviewed the professionals and they made their useless commentary.  Each of them focusing on the symptoms involved but none addressed the foundation problem.  Where was the father???  Where was the male voice in society’s reaction???  Where was the male honor code,  that when followed causes men to provide an umbrella of protection for all around them???

The gang problem was mentioned. It was not said that it has been linked to the absence of male supervision and initiation by the elders.  Gangs are adaptations where the boys are teaching  boys to become  men who behave like boys pretending to men.  Violence is directly relative to despair. Where are the men??? Real men??? Men who would die rather than dishonor themselves!!!

Bullies were discussed but no one talked about them being unloved, mislead  youth struggling in a society that cannot protect them.  Trust me, everyone measures their “well being” as physical “well being” in  their subconscious. ” Your father protects your family and your mother loves openly in your functional archetypic family.  You grow up to know how to be a functional parent. A father protecting and supporting his family.  A mother who within the protection and support of the father feels safe and is able to love openly. Parents who collaborate in raising a child who listens and learns to be strong and loving.

Stop the deterioration of our moral fiber. Stop the collapse of the tower of honor and the crumbling of our once noble society into a pit of fear.  Let the men behave like men. Let our boys grow up to be strong and courageous men.  Let the women be women with the privilege of safety and unfaltering support.  Let the children be controlled and protected by the functional parents.  Let the family system be worth fighting for.  Let nature take it’s course, each of us taking our “natural” role.

Michael Rebel LMHC


Accepting instincts

Monday, January 19th, 2009

There are many implications with this hypothesis. One implication is that all of us are tied together in a universal dance, each knowing instinctively what we are to do. It is coded within us, offering perfect harmony. Mankind will thus evolve and grow. Sometimes we like our role and sometimes we protest it angrily, sometimes we run in fear.

On its simplest terms this hypothesis implies that there are archetypic (instinctive) forces influencing how we feel about our lives. We feel a sense of well being when in harmony and a hollow ache when we have left something untended and an acute pain when dealing with trauma or imminent harm.

Michael Rebel