Symbiosis possible in Marriage?

Good relationships are a form of symbiotic interaction.  Within the symbiotic relationship none of the participants are altered.  All the participants benefit and without sustaining loss.  The participants are usually quite different in habit and form each living it own life in its own way.  The proximity and  shared interaction is by free choice and mutual benefit. Each knows instinctively how to participate. None is responsible for the others life and therefore they do not need to establish co dependent relationships.

The human marriage does have intrinsic co dependence due to the fact that the pregnant female or the female with infant is dependent on males or other females during the 4 year period around birth.  During this time period the mother is saddled with a helpless charge.  The ultimate goal during this time is to maintain as much freedom as possible for the mother with child. Allowing them to thrive in a safe environment.

I believe that with some revision in our culture’s roles, rules and rituals and with the exclusion of the infant care years it would be possible for a symbiotic form of marriage.

What do you think?

Michael Rebel


4 Responses to “Symbiosis possible in Marriage?”

  1. DH says:

    I agree completely. So what should I think if my marriage is based soley on Codependence? Can this change? My husband wont change, so it’s up to me. What should I do to assert my own identity without diminishing his?


  2. Michael says:

    That is exactly what I would recommend that you do. It is a change that may be difficult but it leads life into a transformation from fear to love.

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  4. Michael says:

    Daycare is an alternative that some what resembles archetypical collective care of the women. The protection is still dependent on others and in small groups that is the men and large groups the infrastructure.

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